Respect and safety
Healthy relationships protect dignity, boundaries and freedom from intimidation or coercion.
Relationship wellbeing check
Relationship Health Check
Check five foundations of relationship health: respect, autonomy, trust, communication, and repair. Safety concerns matter more than any total score.
What this doesFocused self-checkTimeAbout 4–7 minutesPrivacyNo signupResultFree result
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Method visibleOriginal DesperateMinds evidence-informed educational self-report; original items; not a diagnostic or validated clinical instrument
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Instrument registrySee rights, evidence and limitations →What you will do
Check the everyday patterns that shape relationship wellbeing.
Answer about your current relationship if you have one. If something feels unsafe, use safety resources rather than relying on a quiz result.
- There are 20 short statements.
- Answer for your usual patterns, not a single unusually good or bad day.
- You can go back and change an answer before finishing.
- No email or payment is required for the free result.
What the assessment measures
Understand the dimensions before you interpret the result.
Respect and safety, autonomy, trust, communication, repair. The dimensions are intended to support reflection, not to turn a complex person or relationship into one label.
Autonomy
Both people can maintain identity, relationships and choices without control or isolation.
Trust and reliability
Trust grows through honesty, consistency, privacy and dependable follow-through.
Communication
Healthy communication allows needs and concerns to be expressed and heard.
Repair
Healthy relationships allow accountability, change and reconnection after mistakes.
Scoring and method
How the free result is calculated
Each response contributes to one of the dimensions above. Reverse-keyed items are scored in the opposite direction where the configuration requires it. The result converts each dimension’s raw total into a 0–100 position within that questionnaire’s possible range.
That 0–100 number is not automatically a percentile. We only use population comparisons when an approved instrument, appropriate norms and a documented scoring method support them.
Limitations
What this result should not be used for
Diagnosing abuse, guaranteeing safety, assigning blame, or deciding whether you must stay or leave.
Self-report results can change with context, mood, interpretation of items and the relationships or situations you have in mind. Use the profile as a structured starting point for reflection and conversation rather than a final judgment.
Current basis: Original DesperateMinds evidence-informed educational self-report; original items; not a diagnostic or validated clinical instrument.
Using your result
Turn a score into a better question.
Use the result to identify the areas that need attention, but give safety concerns more weight than any total score. If fear, coercion, or repeated harm is present, appropriate support matters more than further self-testing.
Frequently asked questions
Questions people ask before taking this assessment
Does one low area mean my relationship is unhealthy?
Not by itself. Look at the pattern, how serious the issue is, how long it has been happening, and whether it involves fear, coercion, humiliation, isolation, or other safety concerns.
What is the difference between normal conflict and an unhealthy dynamic?
Healthy relationships can include disagreement and mistakes. More concerning patterns involve repeated disrespect, control, fear, coercion, retaliation, or a lack of freedom to make ordinary choices.
What if there are safety concerns?
Safety takes priority over the score. If you are afraid of a partner, experiencing violence or coercive control, or worried about immediate danger, use appropriate local emergency or specialist support rather than relying on this assessment.
Should both partners take the check?
They can, but results should not be used to pressure, monitor, or prove something about the other person. Each person’s experience matters.
Can this test tell me whether to stay or leave?
No. It can organize areas to think about, but it cannot make a relationship decision for you or assess the full context of your situation.
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Assessment privacy and limits
No payment or email is required to complete this free assessment. Your basic result is shown in the assessment flow, and any optional paid report is presented separately.
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